Self Doubt, in my opinion, is a challenge we all as human beings face. Whether you’re more or less doubtful than others, doubt is still doubt. The definition of doubt, is a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction. Honestly, do you fall into this definition. There’s no room for pride and ego. If you cant be real with yourself you’ll stay feeling doubtful. The first step is to acknowledge, you fall victim to your own doubt.
Although acknowledging this idea can be very difficult, it’s also very important. The reason it’s important, is because only you can fix yourself doubt. In my profession, I come across many people from all walks of life. One thing I noticed about them all, is somewhere with in them there’s self doubt. I’ve come to accept its all in us, myself included.
Although we all may have self doubt, in my opinion what differs some from others, is how they go about approaching self doubt. Athletes, former athletes, coaches, trainers, even fitness enthusiast all face self doubt at some point. Even though that’s case, they don’t allow themselves to dwell in such negativity. Hours of practice and coaching yes, helps with dealing with such negativity, buts the will. The will is what gets athletes and coaches pass negativity such as doubt.
If your not an athlete or never trained like one, the circumstances are a bit different. Just because they’re different doesn’t mean its an excuse. If your the everyday person whom may work a 40hr plus a week job or a full time student. Your schedule and life at times can be very overwhelming, and you may not have an outlet for these stresses. This can lead to self doubt and if you let it defeat you, you will fall victim to your own self doubt.
Falling victim to my own self doubt?
Falling victim to your own self doubt, is letting that voice that tells you, your not good enough. Telling you, you cant do it. When things get hard you get overwhelmed and flustered. We all struggle with these issue. Some are a little bit more magnified than others, but we all experience this. Being a victim is allowing such negativity to get to you, not only allowing it to get to you, but you choose not to deal with it. A victim is someone whom has all these excuses for why they cant do something. My work schedule is to busy, I have so much work with school, I’ll get to it later, the list goes on. This is one of my biggest issues I have with people, who fall victim to self doubt. The lack of accountability. A victim will blame everyone and everything around them for whatever issues or hardships they maybe dealing with.
I too, use to fall victim to my own self doubt. When I first ventured off into adulthood, at the age of 18. Lets just say life for the youngster was a very rude awakening. I was out of state for college, I had to leave school due to financial issues, and was forced into being an adult. Although that’s just life, I was not prepared at the time. During that time, it felt like nothing was working for me. I was in a constant state of panic and worry, I was easily irritated, became very antisocial, depressed, and I lost a lot of weight (mind you I’m already slim).
I too fell victim to my own self doubt. My dad use to always tell when things will get challenging ” how you going to act son.” Very interesting that this question, is what I used to help me deal with self doubt.
See, when I was being a victim to my own doubt. I learned real quick that life doesn’t care how you feel. People, even those closest to you, don’t care how you feel. Complaining and whining solves absolutely nothing. It actually can make the situation a lot worst. And I struggled with owning my problems. I struggled with accepting maybe I was wrong, or Maybe I am the problem. To look in the mirror and look at yourself. And ask “What was it, that I did that may have caused this situation”. Not everything that may happen to you, is in your control. That still doesn’t eliminate the accountability factor.
My older cousins would always preach to me the importance of words like Integrity, resilience, and persistence.
1 adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.
2 the state of being whole, entire, or undiminished.
1 the power or ability to return to the original form, position, etc., after being bent, compressed, or stretched; elasticity.
2 ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyancy.
1 persisting, especially in spite of opposition, obstacles, discouragement, etc.; persevering:
2 lasting or enduring tenaciously:
These are very powerful words. If you don’t know, the words you choice have power. Be very wise at what you say. For what you put out, the universe will return.
I look to stand powerful like how these words stand powerful. People of power, aren’t t doubtful. There not insecure about themselves, they don’t let opinions of others impact there decisions. They do, they act, they take charge, and they do it with confidence.
Accept failure. Yes, you may lose. You can’t always win. And that’s ok. Face adversity and overcome it. The reward is so much more gratifying than feeling sorry for yourself.
I look to inspire and help. Don’t take me as being insensitive, but informative and trust I do understand. It’s because I understand, I want to help those whom may struggle with self-doubt.
I’m not here to get you but assist you.
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